Hey Jud,
I met a new man recently and we both really clicked.  As it turns out, aside from the magic, and living not too far from each other, we have other things in common.  We're both divorced, have children, and demanding jobs/careers. 

I really like being with being with him.  When we are together we enjoy each other's company. As a result, I find myself planning (plotting?) when we can be together again, thinking,  "Let's see, I can see him on Friday, or Sat, or Sun, or Mon during this sliver of time, or this chunk of time." Then I find myself texting him, what seems to be an okay amount, but I have this vague notion that it's a little too much.  Am I acting too needy, and will I push him away?

I'm so glad you wrote, because, while I am usually kind and responsive, it's taking everything I have not to tell you, "YES, you are acting too needy and you will risk pushing him away!"  Because I really don't know.  Everyone is different.  Your new man may love being with a needy woman who wants reassurance. But, somehow, I don't think so. And if you have a vague notion that it could be tooo much, then that's what I would trust.

It's so funny how men are drawn to independent women, and then suddenly, these independent women turn to mush, needing reassurance.  What happens to us?

In thinking about this, you need to read the signs,  Is he calling, texting, emailing you?  And is he initiating contact?   If he does, that's great.  And if he isn't, perhaps you could give him that opportunity. See what happens if you don't text him for a few hours.  This is not a manipulative trick to get him to call you. This is a way for you begin to deal with and manage your anxiety. 

The challenge is not that you need to learn if he is trustworthy.  It's about you and your learning to trust yourself and your good judgment.  If this is a new relationship, give him some time to teach you about himself, let yourself learn. You don't need to start asking for or demanding reassurance, in that case, since you will know.

At the risk of sounding too "woo- woo", allow space for him to move toward.  If that sounds too weird, just ignore it and take what you can from the rest of my answer.

I'll be thinking of you, and thanks for writing,
Jud