Getting through the initial wall...
Ugly but fun(ny)
I'm the type of guy who doesn't have good looks but I have a charming personality... The only way a girl is gonna fall in love with me is if she gets to know me. This means I normally have to start off as friends and hope to god that it turns into anything else. I need advice on keeping her interested in going further! Hey, Guy,
You know the Vows column in Sunday's Styles section of "The New York Times"? if you start reading it, as in the movie, "27 Dresses",, you will begin to see all the ways couples meet. Many of the couples who have just gotten married, and you can see the evidence in the columns if you read enough of them, began as friends. Your issue, as I see it, and you have identified it yourself, is not that you have to begin a relationship by being friends, but that you have labeled yourself as ugly.You may be, and probably are, the prince inside of your frog costume. Since it's Valentine's Day, rather than Halloween, it's time to give yourself permission to take off your frog costume. You need to shed that image of ugly, and see yourself as the handsome prince! What does ugly mean? You don't have an ugly personality, since you are -- self described, mind you, as fun to be with and funny. So ugly? Do you shave and shower or have neatly trimmed facial hair? Are your clothes clean, as well as your body? Do you stand like you have $,1000,000.00 in your pocket? Do you walk with confidence? Have good presentation skills? Otherwise, perhaps a Toastmasters class would be good to take to build your confidence. And I would pay close attention to what you say to yourself when you look in the mirror. Do you say to yourself, "Man,you are one ugly dude? You'll never get a woman to love you!" or do you say, "Man, you are hot", or "cool", or whatever positive expression works, letting your true self come through. Don't hide any longer under the cloak of an ugly image; it's an inaccurate self-perception. Shed it, and replace it with the image of yourself as the prince. Do not change the way you act, but change your self perception. You will be AMAZED at the results, since just that subtle but powerful shift will turn you into a chick magnet. I guarantee it!I'll be thinking of you,
Jud
I'm the type of guy who doesn't have good looks but I have a charming personality... The only way a girl is gonna fall in love with me is if she gets to know me. This means I normally have to start off as friends and hope to god that it turns into anything else. I need advice on keeping her interested in going further! Hey, Guy,
You know the Vows column in Sunday's Styles section of "The New York Times"? if you start reading it, as in the movie, "27 Dresses",, you will begin to see all the ways couples meet. Many of the couples who have just gotten married, and you can see the evidence in the columns if you read enough of them, began as friends. Your issue, as I see it, and you have identified it yourself, is not that you have to begin a relationship by being friends, but that you have labeled yourself as ugly.You may be, and probably are, the prince inside of your frog costume. Since it's Valentine's Day, rather than Halloween, it's time to give yourself permission to take off your frog costume. You need to shed that image of ugly, and see yourself as the handsome prince! What does ugly mean? You don't have an ugly personality, since you are -- self described, mind you, as fun to be with and funny. So ugly? Do you shave and shower or have neatly trimmed facial hair? Are your clothes clean, as well as your body? Do you stand like you have $,1000,000.00 in your pocket? Do you walk with confidence? Have good presentation skills? Otherwise, perhaps a Toastmasters class would be good to take to build your confidence. And I would pay close attention to what you say to yourself when you look in the mirror. Do you say to yourself, "Man,you are one ugly dude? You'll never get a woman to love you!" or do you say, "Man, you are hot", or "cool", or whatever positive expression works, letting your true self come through. Don't hide any longer under the cloak of an ugly image; it's an inaccurate self-perception. Shed it, and replace it with the image of yourself as the prince. Do not change the way you act, but change your self perception. You will be AMAZED at the results, since just that subtle but powerful shift will turn you into a chick magnet. I guarantee it!I'll be thinking of you,
Jud
