How Can I Make Him See that I'm the One?
Hey Jud,
Ok so I have dated this guy before, and we broke up because he thought I was being clingy. we did not talk for months then we started again, and seeing each other for work events etc. we have ahigh sexual drive to each other, but i want him to commit, he says I take it personal. He says, he just cant give me a relationship now because he is married to his job. I see us being a good relationship. we have a lot of the same interests, a lot of the same likes and dislikes, family background, etc. My question is what do I do to get him? I know he likes me, and I know its more than sexual, but what do I do to make him fall head over heals? Do I look like he lost me, what?
Ok so I have dated this guy before, and we broke up because he thought I was being clingy. we did not talk for months then we started again, and seeing each other for work events etc. we have ahigh sexual drive to each other, but i want him to commit, he says I take it personal. He says, he just cant give me a relationship now because he is married to his job. I see us being a good relationship. we have a lot of the same interests, a lot of the same likes and dislikes, family background, etc. My question is what do I do to get him? I know he likes me, and I know its more than sexual, but what do I do to make him fall head over heals? Do I look like he lost me, what?
Hey, I'm so glad you wrote. If only Cupid would take his bow and arrow and shoot the arrow into your man to infuse him with love for you. If only you could wave your magic wand to make it happen.
One of the hardest life lessons is that we can't change someone else, we can only change ourselves. So your task, as hard as it may seem, is to take really good care of yourself, making sure you are physically healthy and actively, mentally challenged in life and at work, filled with interests that are not time wasters, but that are rich and fulfilling, such as sports, playing or watching, being a part of a reading group, taking an art or woodworking class or tour of museums, volunteering with babies or animals who need your caring and love, making plans so that you have a full rich life..
That way you won't to be focused on him.The more involved you are in your own life, perhaps only seeing him occasionally, the will you or he will be be seeing each other by choice, and not out of neediness, or perceived neediness.
Your goal, and your challenge is to create a wonderful fulfilling life so that you are less available to him. You will also then be the most interesting person in the room not just to him, but to others you will definitely meet.
I will be thinking of you this Valentine's Day, and beyond,
Jud
Jud
