I'm so glad you wrote, since there are so many men and women who feel the way you do, and you have really expressed it well.

My wise Great Auntie May who lived to be almost 103 years old used to say, "Don't say, 'I'm alone...." " with a depressed, sad, mournful, complaining, dejected expression. "Say, 'I'm alone!!!!", throwing her arms up in the air, smiling, while role modeling her celebration of aloneness, rather than loneliness, celebrating herself..

I would spend a some time thinking about how you might want to spend Valentine's Day if you were with someone.  Would you buy or make and decorate a card or buy or make special chocolates? Sample brownies?  Eat shrimp? Would you select a lovely bottle of wine and make a special dinner?

Keeping this in mind, there are four approaches you can take:

• Do one nice thing, perhaps from the above list, for yourself
• Do one nice thing for one other person.
• Do one nice thing for many other people, or
• Ignore it.

In terms of creating joy, you are more capable and powerful than you think! And I'm certain that with some time and love in your heart, you will make a good choice for yourself for Valentine's Day, and every day.

With pleasure,
Jud