Valentine's Day Treat?
Hey Jud,
It's wonderful to want to please your guy with a little something special for Valentine's Day. And thank you for your great question! And while I appreciate your asking me, as a love and relationship expert, about what most guys like, what's really important is what YOUR guy likes. And, given that, the only one who knows what he would like as little something special is.... HIM! So, it's embarrassing, at times, but this is where convo precedes mojo. Of course, you need to use your own words, and ask, or even text, "You know, I've been thinking about giving you something special to please you, since you really are my Valentine. I wonder if we could talk about what that could be?" And if he's shy or says he doesn't know, you could give him some suggestions. "Well, we could go to the movies, go dancing, hear some music, or we could stay home, and sip a little wine, and I could give you a backrub, or we could..... What do you think? Which of these would be a little special for you?" Or you could think about what YOU would like and then just do it, slowly and gently,not taking him by surprise. Often women wait for their guy to give them permission and the ok, and while permission is important, we can also learn to trust our judgment, and to check in along the way to make sure he is into it, If a woman feels romantic, and sets a lovely scene, it can be contagious! Whatever approach you consider, I believe that what your guy would like the most, rather than a new sexual technique or position, is your attention, your heart, your sense of humor, and your love. So whatever you choose, keep that in mind! With pleasure,
Jud
I am wondering what you think most guys are hoping
for in the sexuality department for Valentine's Day? Us women want to
please but within our boundaries.
Thanks Jud!
Hey!It's wonderful to want to please your guy with a little something special for Valentine's Day. And thank you for your great question! And while I appreciate your asking me, as a love and relationship expert, about what most guys like, what's really important is what YOUR guy likes. And, given that, the only one who knows what he would like as little something special is.... HIM! So, it's embarrassing, at times, but this is where convo precedes mojo. Of course, you need to use your own words, and ask, or even text, "You know, I've been thinking about giving you something special to please you, since you really are my Valentine. I wonder if we could talk about what that could be?" And if he's shy or says he doesn't know, you could give him some suggestions. "Well, we could go to the movies, go dancing, hear some music, or we could stay home, and sip a little wine, and I could give you a backrub, or we could..... What do you think? Which of these would be a little special for you?" Or you could think about what YOU would like and then just do it, slowly and gently,not taking him by surprise. Often women wait for their guy to give them permission and the ok, and while permission is important, we can also learn to trust our judgment, and to check in along the way to make sure he is into it, If a woman feels romantic, and sets a lovely scene, it can be contagious! Whatever approach you consider, I believe that what your guy would like the most, rather than a new sexual technique or position, is your attention, your heart, your sense of humor, and your love. So whatever you choose, keep that in mind! With pleasure,
Jud
