Why Don't I Like Anal or Oral Sex?
Hey Jud,
| Why is it that I don't like and feel comfortable having anal or oral sex? |
Your question is so interesting. If you had asked why you didn't like or feel comfortable with driving or flying, you can see that really the answer is that no one knows. Unless you perhaps know. But you ask asking me!
So when I reread your Q, I think that somewhere you think that you SHOULD like and feel comfortable having anal or oral sex. And it's the "should" that I want to respond to. I do not believe that we "should" do anything because we think we "should".
If your question were, "I think I might be interested in learning to drive or to feel more comfortable flying" that is one thing. But you didn't say that you might be interested in learning to like or feel comfortable with anal or oral sex. It doesn't sound as though this is anything you want to change.
Perhaps your partner, or your friends, think you "should" be interested in exploring these parts of your body for pleasure.
But again,this is your body, your sexuality, and your life.
There are other sex bloggers that would give you tips to begin to like it, or even possible reasons why you might not like these sexual activities. And if I answered your question on another day, i might answer it differently. Then again, I don't think so.
The message I want to leave you with is that you do not have to incorporate these sexual activities or body parts into your love making. As long as you feel comfortable giving and receiving pleasure in the ways you like, that's the way you feel comfortable making love. I suggest shifting your focus. Rather than wasting valuable energy wondering about why you don't like some sexual behavior, celebrate the pleasure you get from the ways you do make love. See how different you fee when you change your focus. And, if you like, let me know!
U R OK,
Jud
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